Couples Therapy
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Are you wondering where the loving feelings went? Does it seem like every conversation turns into an argument? Are you feeling hurt, unappreciated and misunderstood? Couples come to me for a variety of issues including finances, infidelity, in-laws, conflict over division of labor, unmet expectations, sexual issues and parenting.
I understand the heartache that can come when relationships aren't going well. The good news is that many problems are solvable, and for the unsolvable, we can learn to thrive in spite of them. In order to build solutions to problems, I help each of you to talk about what you would like your relationship to be like instead. Talking about your hopes and preferences brings relief as it places the focus on what it is that you do want and allows you to move away from staying stuck in the problems and the painful feelings that come with it.
As each of you describe your desired transformation, it becomes more vivid, allowing you to imagine and feel the good feelings that come along with talking about the life you desire. We then explore and uncover your unique strengths that will support you in creating the future that you want.
My main role is to help you to remember and connect to your best hopes.
I do this by being a story listener. This is powerful as you may have never had a chance to talk about your problems nor thought or spoken about what you really want -and so may have never shared it with your partner.
- A good listener is one who helps us overhear ourselves Yahia Lababidi Egyptian American poet
This approach allows you to experience alternate possibilities for the future of your relationship. If your mutual best hope is to have a lasting loving relationship and you focus on it, then it's possible for you to create it. You can feel inspired about your life together and consistently have access to joy, connection, love, fun, fulfillment; explore what's important to you and become more of who you truly are so that you can reshape your lives and positively impact yourselves, each other, your families, colleagues and friends.
I warmly welcome individuals and couples from all backgrounds, including the LGBTQ+ community, providing a safe and affirming space for everyone to explore and strengthen their relationships.
Reclaim the Love in Your Relationship!
My Therapeutic Approaches
My main approach is Solution Focused Brief therapy (SFBT) and Solution Focused Couples Therapy which is evidence-based and proven to be effective in helping clients to create their desired vision for themselves and their relationship. The number of sessions we have is up to you and can range from one to many depending on what you determine would be most helpful.
I also have training in Ellen Bader and Pete Pearson's Developmental Model of Couples ( Integrating Attachment, Differentiation and Neuroscience) from the Couples Institute and am a certified Couples Coach through the and the Relationship Coaching Institute. I am a workshop leader for the Seven Principles for making Marriage Work (Gottman Institute) and am further influenced by Couples Specialists Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, Esther Perel and Stan Tatkin.
Having experienced challenging times with my husband back in the day, and not knowing how to resolve it, I have great compassionate for the depth of suffering you may be experiencing. I've learned that while the heartache and problems are real and valid, in order to make things better, it's important to move from ongoing talk about the problem to a focus on how you would rather feel and what transformation you are looking for. This sort of conversation allows you to access good feelings, which is essential in order to build the life you want.
The content of the conversation is about each of your desires and strengths and the transformation you are looking for. I use the language that each of you use, to ask you detailed questions that lead to you talking about and imagining yourselves living your desired future so that you can create it.
I integrate teachings in emotional fitness, positive psychology, mindfulness, emotion regulation, distress tolerance, spirituality, and energy, based on your specific desires.
I have advanced training and experience in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy through Behavioral -Tech and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy through the Albert Ellis Institute and my work is further influenced by other teachers including Barbara Fridrikson's Positive Psychology, Ekhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Kristen Neff, Thich Nhat Tran, Esther Hicks, Sydney Banks, Neville Goddard, Bruce Lipton, Brene Brown and social scientist Ellen Langer.
Service Fees
Each session is 1 hour, and fee is due prior to the session, or immediately after, and is payable by credit card or e-transfer. I require 24-hour advance notice if you need to cancel the session.
New Client Consultation, 15 minutes (Online or in-person): FREE
Rates for services for Couples/Family Therapy (online or in-person):
1. 90 minute Couple/Family initial session $300.00
2. 75 minute Couples/Family Follow-up $250.00
3. 60 minute Couples/Family Follow-up $200.00
Rates for services for Individual Therapy (online of in-person):
1. 75 minute initial individual session: $200.00
2. 60 minute Individual Follow-up $160.00
3. 30 minute Individual Follow-up $80.00
Group Sessions and Speaker Bookings: Contact Me
Late Cancellation Policy: I require 24 hours notice for any cancellations or changes to your appointment. If you cancel an appointment less than 24 hours in advance, the full amount of the session will be charged to you unless it is the result of emergency or unforeseen events.
Check with your insurance provider to determine what your plan covers for reimbursement - we do not do direct billing.
